If you've won the love of a single mom, you've hit the relationship jackpot.Few love as selflessly and fiercely as a woman who's raised her kiddos on her own (or mostly on her own). We recently asked a handful of divorced moms to give their best elevator pitch for dating single mamas. Any single mom you date likely has a lot on her plate -- and much of it comes her way unexpectedly. Par for the course.) What that means for you is that she'll understand if you're running late for a dinner date because of a deadline at work. Failed dinner plans are nothing to us." If you want a woman who gets things done, look no further than a single mom, says writer Jennifer Ball.My friend dated a single mom and she was always breaking plans because of childcare issues, or suggesting he just come over and watch a movie. Maybe she’s like my friend and had a baby after just dating someone. I dated a single mom who had a lot of issues with her ex and I found that I got sucked into a lot of drama.I’m young and I want to have fun, out in the world, not be tied down to someone’s living room while her kid sleeps in the bedroom. I admire my friend for being a stand-up guy and taking care of his son, so my opinion of a woman doing the same … Also, her ex had issues with me being around his daughter because he was threatened by the relationship that was forming. (And weren’t you looking for someone who would be a great mother? She’s incredibly patient, but doesn’t have a lot of tolerance for bad behavior. My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one. I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely (you will end up selling your engagement ring anyway with those guys).
"We're used to being on our own and aren't afraid of it," says single mom Dina Strada.
So many disappointments, self-blame, and broken hearts. Since becoming a single mother I have found that I am so much less judgmental of myself. 1) you became a parent, which will blow your mind, heart and life in incredible ways, and 2) you’ve found yourself single after a serious longterm relationship.
This kindness bleeds into your other relationships. Being a single mom means that you have been through at least three life-altering experiences.
I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.
I am also far less critical of other people, including men. 3) You’ve faced the reason-defying triumphs that are required of single motherhood.